A Word-For-Word Example Of EXACTLY What To Say
When Approaching A Woman You Want To Meet!
Today, I'd like to share some powerful insights
into actually MAKING the approach to a woman,
including full details and even WORD-FOR-WORD
examples of what to say!
One of my favorite ways of meeting women has
always been the "real world", instead of just relying
on places like bars and clubs. I find that real life
gives you the opportunity to meet some of the most
incredible women who rarely can be found in the
bar scene.
You are about to hear a super-realistic example of an
approach, complete with a "play-by-play" analysis of
exactly what's going on, and how to apply it in your
approaches with women!
Let's first play the entire introduction, so you can get
the overall feel of the interaction, and then we'll break
it down into pieces so you can see exactly how and
where each attraction strategy was applied! (Just click
the arrow button to play!)
When the above clip finishes, we're ready to then
break down the interaction into "Six Easy Pieces".
Number One:
Assess The Situation Quickly And Elevate The Mood
It's a train platform, a very public place but not exactly
a party, a bar, or a club. The idea here is not to over-do
it, but rather to keep things low key.
That means no wild party antics or outlandish jokes.
Subtlety is the best way to get things started.
I quickly look her over, I see she's wearing this necklace
made of very colorful beads, perhaps they are the colors
of various different countries?
That angle is as good as any, and it's light, it's upbeat,
and I already know that whatever she says, it will be
"fuel" for me to use for creating a playful response.
Remember, my goal is to always INCREASE the awesome
emotions of any situation, and that cannot be done from
needy compliments that just make a woman feel the
guy is desperate.
Instead, I start with the comment about the colors on her
necklace, that it's highly unusual and unique, and asking
about the meaning.
Notice that the colors themselves are a positive emotional
anchor and assocation. It's already getting her into the right
frame of mind, and I'm totally going with these upbeat vibes.
She tells me that she really likes colors, and now that she
is in this frame of mind, I get a bit playful with the comment
about the colors being so bright like a prize in a cereal box,
and the Mr. T necklaces, etc.
And, you can also tell from her tonality, this woman is a
warm woman with a lot of fun in her personality, so I'm
listening particularly well to her and paying attention to
all the subtleties in her tonality.
Number Two:
Gradually Shift Toward "Real Conversation"
And Set Up The Sexual Vibes
You don't want to stay in EXCLUSIVELY playful mode for
too long, either.
The point of the playful is to warm things up for the next
stage, which is getting to know each other a bit better
and setting up the whole "male-female" dynamic.
So I connect the first part of the conversation to the next
by mentioning the guy who was wearing a lot of jewelry,
and connecting this to the idea of the polarity between
the masculine and the feminine.
Notice also, that it's still laced with a bit of playfulness,
because playfulness is fantastic, it's just that this is
not ONLY playful, it's also sexual, it's also getting to
know her thoughts, it's increasing the bond.
Also, by sharing a bit of my childhood, this is a bit of
intimacy as well, that further increases the bond.
Number Three:
With Genuine EMPATHY, Learn More About Her
So at this point, we're way past "breaking the ice",
the vibe is even more comfortable now, so it makes
sense to get a bit closer now, it's not "wierd".
I ask her if she's just shopping, or coming back from
work, etc. She tells me yes, she's returning from work
and a little bit tired.
I take note of the fact she's a bit tired, so my tonality
doesn't ever go overbearing here, it's more of a
reassuring calming tonality.
Then, I mention that it's important to find something
to do that you love, so that you're not as exhausted,
or if you are exhausted it's at least in a good way
because it's from passion.
By the way, I also figured that a woman as attractive, fun,
and confident as her, probably WAS doing something
she loved, or was at least determined to do so eventually.
So I had a pretty strong feeling this comment would not
depress her, but rather "confirm her identity" and her
values, which I myself agree with on this particular point.
One of the strongest things you can do in any interaction
with a fellow human being is to give them genuine
"confirming feedback" on who they are as a person.
Notice also, that I don't give her an easy or empty compliment
regarding her acting ambitions. She even laughs and says
"I know" when I tell her it's not a full compliment yet!
In order for it to be a full compliment, she has to have
earned it, by demonstrating genuine passion for the
art and skill of acting.
Number Four:
Allow Her To Earn Your Respect, And Then Validate Her
I ask her what her passion is behind acting, and I ask her
what she feels she is giving the world.
Now, it's important to realize that I'm not doing this to be
a jerk, I'm doing this because I GENUINELY want to know
what is important to her.
I want to know this because I care to see what she is like
as a person, I care what her passions are, and I also want
to see if we share any core values.
And so, once she begins to answer me, I'm really listening
super carefully. This also helps me have more meaningful
responses to her based on what she says.
She really DOES win my respect and interest, given in how
little time I've already found out some very positive things
about her, based on the conversation we're having.
For one thing, she likes making people laugh.
For a second thing, she doesn't like to say gossip.
Her appreciation and choice of Tom Hanks instead of
a million other famous actors was excellent as well.
It showed she can appreciate talent more than just
being famous.
I make sure to validate and compliment her on all these
things, because they are all genuinely worthy traits.
And I don't forget the playful vibe either, and playfully
joke with her, regarding her "liking the attention" that
"like I said, this might not be a compliment". (Regarding
my earlier comment about being able to easily picture
her as an actress, might not be a compliment!)
Plus, the playful comment that also incorporates the
concept of FUTURE PROJECTION about her being an
Oscar Academy-Award winning actress in the future.
This enables her to playfully EXPERIENCE those awesome
emotions of such an incredible achievement.
Number Five:
Demonstrate Unique Elements Of YOUR Personality
It's important that you also convey elements of what
makes your personality unique.
In this particular example, my passion for film comes
out in a natural way. I share with her my insights on
Hanks and his own background and motivation for film.
I also share with her in an indirect way my own values
about fidelity, by letting her know that I respect Hanks
for not screwing up his relationships with scandals,
which is very rare among big stars.
Plus, I mention how I respect how Hanks was motivated
not by fame, but by the quality of his performances and
the quality of the work he makes.
The other thing I do is I playfully reward her for choosing
a truly talented actor, which shows her more about the
kinds of people and the kinds of values that I respect.
Number Six:
Demonstrate YOUR Passion, And Introduce Your Name
The last step in the introduction is revealing more about
yourself. She will usually prompt this by asking you,
because if you do the interaction right, she then WANTS
to know more about you.
This way, you are not being egotistical, since now she
is asking to know about you.
Notice, I don't focus on "what I do", but more on what
fascinates me ABOUT what I do. I'm in love with the
HUMAN element of communication, and how it connects
all human beings.
When approaching a woman, remember to keep the focus
on the emotional core, and not on boring facts and figures.
After this, I introduce myself, which also prompts her
to do the same. I find this to be just a bit cooler than
having to ask her what her name is.
All THIS that you've read so far is the proper way to make
the approach and ATTRACT a woman and NOT get rejected.
And as powerful as what you've been reading right now is,
this is just a tiny SAMPLE from my incredible program called
"Chats From Scratch".
This program is JAM-PACKED with crucial strategies for
approaching attractive women ANYWHERE, whether you
find them on the train, bus, bookstore, or even working in
a place like a lingerie store!
The greatest thing about this program is that you can
start using it on women TODAY, since I have made this
program available to you through INSTANT DOWNLOAD.
This program is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/chats.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
into actually MAKING the approach to a woman,
including full details and even WORD-FOR-WORD
examples of what to say!
One of my favorite ways of meeting women has
always been the "real world", instead of just relying
on places like bars and clubs. I find that real life
gives you the opportunity to meet some of the most
incredible women who rarely can be found in the
bar scene.
You are about to hear a super-realistic example of an
approach, complete with a "play-by-play" analysis of
exactly what's going on, and how to apply it in your
approaches with women!
Let's first play the entire introduction, so you can get
the overall feel of the interaction, and then we'll break
it down into pieces so you can see exactly how and
where each attraction strategy was applied! (Just click
the arrow button to play!)
When the above clip finishes, we're ready to then
break down the interaction into "Six Easy Pieces".
Number One:
Assess The Situation Quickly And Elevate The Mood
It's a train platform, a very public place but not exactly
a party, a bar, or a club. The idea here is not to over-do
it, but rather to keep things low key.
That means no wild party antics or outlandish jokes.
Subtlety is the best way to get things started.
I quickly look her over, I see she's wearing this necklace
made of very colorful beads, perhaps they are the colors
of various different countries?
That angle is as good as any, and it's light, it's upbeat,
and I already know that whatever she says, it will be
"fuel" for me to use for creating a playful response.
Remember, my goal is to always INCREASE the awesome
emotions of any situation, and that cannot be done from
needy compliments that just make a woman feel the
guy is desperate.
Instead, I start with the comment about the colors on her
necklace, that it's highly unusual and unique, and asking
about the meaning.
Notice that the colors themselves are a positive emotional
anchor and assocation. It's already getting her into the right
frame of mind, and I'm totally going with these upbeat vibes.
She tells me that she really likes colors, and now that she
is in this frame of mind, I get a bit playful with the comment
about the colors being so bright like a prize in a cereal box,
and the Mr. T necklaces, etc.
And, you can also tell from her tonality, this woman is a
warm woman with a lot of fun in her personality, so I'm
listening particularly well to her and paying attention to
all the subtleties in her tonality.
Number Two:
Gradually Shift Toward "Real Conversation"
And Set Up The Sexual Vibes
You don't want to stay in EXCLUSIVELY playful mode for
too long, either.
The point of the playful is to warm things up for the next
stage, which is getting to know each other a bit better
and setting up the whole "male-female" dynamic.
So I connect the first part of the conversation to the next
by mentioning the guy who was wearing a lot of jewelry,
and connecting this to the idea of the polarity between
the masculine and the feminine.
Notice also, that it's still laced with a bit of playfulness,
because playfulness is fantastic, it's just that this is
not ONLY playful, it's also sexual, it's also getting to
know her thoughts, it's increasing the bond.
Also, by sharing a bit of my childhood, this is a bit of
intimacy as well, that further increases the bond.
Number Three:
With Genuine EMPATHY, Learn More About Her
So at this point, we're way past "breaking the ice",
the vibe is even more comfortable now, so it makes
sense to get a bit closer now, it's not "wierd".
I ask her if she's just shopping, or coming back from
work, etc. She tells me yes, she's returning from work
and a little bit tired.
I take note of the fact she's a bit tired, so my tonality
doesn't ever go overbearing here, it's more of a
reassuring calming tonality.
Then, I mention that it's important to find something
to do that you love, so that you're not as exhausted,
or if you are exhausted it's at least in a good way
because it's from passion.
By the way, I also figured that a woman as attractive, fun,
and confident as her, probably WAS doing something
she loved, or was at least determined to do so eventually.
So I had a pretty strong feeling this comment would not
depress her, but rather "confirm her identity" and her
values, which I myself agree with on this particular point.
One of the strongest things you can do in any interaction
with a fellow human being is to give them genuine
"confirming feedback" on who they are as a person.
Notice also, that I don't give her an easy or empty compliment
regarding her acting ambitions. She even laughs and says
"I know" when I tell her it's not a full compliment yet!
In order for it to be a full compliment, she has to have
earned it, by demonstrating genuine passion for the
art and skill of acting.
Number Four:
Allow Her To Earn Your Respect, And Then Validate Her
I ask her what her passion is behind acting, and I ask her
what she feels she is giving the world.
Now, it's important to realize that I'm not doing this to be
a jerk, I'm doing this because I GENUINELY want to know
what is important to her.
I want to know this because I care to see what she is like
as a person, I care what her passions are, and I also want
to see if we share any core values.
And so, once she begins to answer me, I'm really listening
super carefully. This also helps me have more meaningful
responses to her based on what she says.
She really DOES win my respect and interest, given in how
little time I've already found out some very positive things
about her, based on the conversation we're having.
For one thing, she likes making people laugh.
For a second thing, she doesn't like to say gossip.
Her appreciation and choice of Tom Hanks instead of
a million other famous actors was excellent as well.
It showed she can appreciate talent more than just
being famous.
I make sure to validate and compliment her on all these
things, because they are all genuinely worthy traits.
And I don't forget the playful vibe either, and playfully
joke with her, regarding her "liking the attention" that
"like I said, this might not be a compliment". (Regarding
my earlier comment about being able to easily picture
her as an actress, might not be a compliment!)
Plus, the playful comment that also incorporates the
concept of FUTURE PROJECTION about her being an
Oscar Academy-Award winning actress in the future.
This enables her to playfully EXPERIENCE those awesome
emotions of such an incredible achievement.
Number Five:
Demonstrate Unique Elements Of YOUR Personality
It's important that you also convey elements of what
makes your personality unique.
In this particular example, my passion for film comes
out in a natural way. I share with her my insights on
Hanks and his own background and motivation for film.
I also share with her in an indirect way my own values
about fidelity, by letting her know that I respect Hanks
for not screwing up his relationships with scandals,
which is very rare among big stars.
Plus, I mention how I respect how Hanks was motivated
not by fame, but by the quality of his performances and
the quality of the work he makes.
The other thing I do is I playfully reward her for choosing
a truly talented actor, which shows her more about the
kinds of people and the kinds of values that I respect.
Number Six:
Demonstrate YOUR Passion, And Introduce Your Name
The last step in the introduction is revealing more about
yourself. She will usually prompt this by asking you,
because if you do the interaction right, she then WANTS
to know more about you.
This way, you are not being egotistical, since now she
is asking to know about you.
Notice, I don't focus on "what I do", but more on what
fascinates me ABOUT what I do. I'm in love with the
HUMAN element of communication, and how it connects
all human beings.
When approaching a woman, remember to keep the focus
on the emotional core, and not on boring facts and figures.
After this, I introduce myself, which also prompts her
to do the same. I find this to be just a bit cooler than
having to ask her what her name is.
All THIS that you've read so far is the proper way to make
the approach and ATTRACT a woman and NOT get rejected.
And as powerful as what you've been reading right now is,
this is just a tiny SAMPLE from my incredible program called
"Chats From Scratch".
This program is JAM-PACKED with crucial strategies for
approaching attractive women ANYWHERE, whether you
find them on the train, bus, bookstore, or even working in
a place like a lingerie store!
The greatest thing about this program is that you can
start using it on women TODAY, since I have made this
program available to you through INSTANT DOWNLOAD.
This program is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/chats.html
Till next time,
Michael Marks
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